Good communication is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship. The more you practice communicating effectively and efficiently, the stronger your relationship can become. Whether you are a new couple just getting to know one another or you are in the midst of a long-term relationship, here are six communication tips for you and your partner to follow.
1. Respect Your Partner
If you are in a relationship, the hope is that you respect your partner. However, implementing respect in all aspects of your relationship is vital. When speaking with your partner regarding a positive or negative topic, you must speak from a place of respect. If you don’t respect your partner’s thoughts or boundaries, it will become apparent in how you communicate with them. Once you have consciously made an effort to show respect in all your actions, your words will come from an obvious place of love.
2. Pay Attention to Nonverbal Cues
Nonverbal cues are very important when it comes to communication for both the listener and the speaker. What you don’t say while talking is just as important as the words you do say. Imagine your partner is telling you about their day, and then they realize you have been on the phone the whole time they have been talking. That isn’t a great display of listening. Now, imagine the same conversation, but you are making eye contact and affirming head gestures. That is a much better form of active communication.
3. Schedule Time for Conversations
As unglamorous as it sounds, sometimes it may be best to put time on the calendar for a meaningful conversation. While you should not wait too long, it is essential to wait for the right time to communicate regarding a complex topic. If the two of you must set aside time to do so, then so be it. Making the time to talk ensures that you both are prepared and in the right mindset to communicate.
4. Become a Better Listener
Be the listener you want to speak to. Listen to your partner actively, with nonverbal cues, like the above, and affirming phrases. Nod your head while they speak and ask questions about their stories. It helps you be mentally present when your partner is speaking. By showing you really care about anything and everything they have to say, you are letting your partner know that you are invested in your relationship.
5. Tell Them What You Need
As convenient as it would be, our partners are not mind-readers. Sometimes we must tell them what we need from them. Sometimes you want to vent and receive an affirming phrase. Other times, you may need advice on a topic. Rather than getting frustrated that they are not saying the right thing, let them know before you start talking how you would like them to support you and what you need from them.
6. Always Practice Honesty
Honesty is the best policy, and for good reason. Honesty breeds trust and faith in your partner and your relationship. Make sure you always bring an open heart and mind to any conversation you have with your partner. It helps your foundation to grow strong and unshakable.
Practicing communication can be daunting. Marriage counseling is a great option to ensure you both learn the skills you need if you feel like you and your partner still need a bit of help in this department. Take a look through my website to see if you think we would be a good match. Contact me me when you are ready to get started on the path toward a strong, happy relationship.